This time last year, I had embarked on my husband finding mission. At 38 (at the time) and spending an extended period of time with my family down in Florida, I came to the conclusion that I was ready for marriage. This was after helping my niece with her homework, driving her to school and after school activities and cooking dinner for my family almost every night. I found that I was well suited for domestic life. I genuinely enjoyed being there for others and gained satisfaction from feeding them good, healthy meals. I wanted this for myself. I was ready to give 100% of myself to someone else.
I started online dating to find my Mr. Right and eventually met and fell in love with someone. We were happy and our relationship was the bees knees. He was talking marriage, I was talking marriage. We were on our way to Happyville by way of Ever After. But things started to fall apart and I couldn't understand who what where or WHY?
You truly learn who a person is when times are rough. Everyone loves a good time, and when everything is going well, everyone is merry. Calls on the regular are being made, dinners are planned and nights are spent snuggling together. However, once circumstances change, watching to see how your partner handles themselves is a huge eyeopener. Will they lean on you for support, will they lean too much? Will they shut down and not tell you what is happening? Will they turn to alcohol or cheating? It's heart wrenching to watch your soulmate unravel. When love is involved, walking away isn't always an option because you want to be there for them.
The hardest part when loving someone is letting them go. You think that once they're gone, it's forever. You want to hold on tighter, but the tighter you hold on, the farther away the become. In the end, you have to do what is best for you and your heart. Letting them go might be the best thing for the both of you and allowing them to find their way back. I guess the saying is right, “If you love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours. If not, it was never meant to be.”
What do you think? How have you reacted in your past relationships?